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Ronna Huckaby, M.Ed, LPC-S
Licensed Counselor, Executive Coach

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Swimsuit Shopping

6/30/2021

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I don't know about you, but I do not know any woman who enjoys shopping for a swimsuit.  Maybe if you are a supermodel it might be a pleasant experience, but I do not know any supermodels.

This is a grueling task-for several reasons.
1.  Dressing rooms have mirrors
2. Searching for the separate tops and bottoms-trying to find a match.

Let's discuss the matching of tops and bottoms.  It is hard to find a true "one-piece" suit these days.  Unless you are an Olympic swimmer and the USA supplies you with one, not sure where you can find one (I'm sure they are out there but again--this task is not one I enjoy so I am NOT going to extend the search for something I do not want to buy anyway.)

There are rows of tops--from a true bikini top to more of a tankini top. I find one that you can live with and then work to find the elusive matching bottom.  I might find the same material but the style is too revealing and at the age of 58, not sure a string bottom is the look I am going for.   So I switch the top for a solid and work to find a bottom...this MIGHT be easier but best bet:  find a black bottom...basic black goes with anything right? (FYI:  I have 4-6 black swimsuit bottoms)

Ok.  I find a couple of pieces that I am willing to try on all the while trying to boost my self esteem before I actually try it on with some positive self-talk.  "No one is even going to see you"  "You have a nice tan"  "You are not too bad for your age"  whatever works.

The dressing room:  You slip it on (never removing the awkward panty liner) and try not and think about how many times this has been tried on this year.  It "feels" ok--not too tight, not too loose.  I never look in the mirror until I have it on and then I do a quick turn....TADA!  uh....no.  I take it off as fast as possible and try the next one.  This time instead of a quick turn, I do the side glance....a sneak peak...and if at that point I am not crying, I will take a full look.   I repeat all of the self-esteem boosters and decide that I just need to get it, check out and go home.  

No one is paying any attention to me at the beach.  I am alone at the pool in my backyard.  Furthermore,  I now realize I just need a big hat and sunglasses and maybe no one will ever recognize me.  So get I my new suit, my BIG hat and BIGGER sunglasses and give myself a new "pool time" identity. See you at the pool and FYI: call me Melissa.  

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Clutter vs Passion

6/22/2021

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I hate clutter.
The End.

Just kidding.  Last year I posted an entry to this blog about "The Silent Hike."  While reading it is not a prerequisite to reading this entry, reading it will give you context of how this topic was born.

The phrase I wrote in my journal was "Clutter extinguishes passion."  When I said that to myself, I was actually proud.  At the time it really encompassed what I was feeling.  I was overwhelmed at work, pulled in many different directions, dealing with some drama (I hate drama almost as much as I hate clutter) and I just didn't feel the joy and passion that I usually felt for my job.  All the "noise" around me had put out my flame.  I didn't give a $#@!.

I was jealous of all those around me that were so passionate about their cause and life's work.  I wanted my passion back.  Clutter had ripped it from my life.

While I am not a perfectionist, I do like things neat and tidy.  When my desk is a mess, or my house, I have to get it picked up so I can rest easy and work.  I like all areas of my life clutter free (as is possible).  Some people do not even seem to SEE clutter around them--be it actually clutter or drama.  I do not know if I would want to be one of those people. Do they feel like their passion is extinguished?    (I am married to one who doesn't appear to see clutter and he can work amongst the chaos-bless him)  He can be himself, and I have learned to just shut the door to his office.  Why could I not just "shut the door" at work? 

I say all of this to point out that clutter is here to stay.   There are days when things are overwhelming and seem insurmountable.  You just don't care.  But you DO care.  So how do we move past it and get our passion ignited again?  I wish I had the easy 1,2,3 answer.  But here is what I have learned.

1.  See the clutter--what can you live with? for things you cannot live with, see if you can go around it.
2.  Embrace the clutter--what can you learn from it?  There are many life lessons to be found.
3.  Remember your passion--"this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine"
4.  Protect your passion. --when the song says "hide it under a bushel-NO" maybe sometimes you have to at least shield it from the wind.

Just thinking out loud.

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A Year We Won't Forget

6/9/2021

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In writing the title of this post, I started thinking about how I would have identified "such a year" prior to 2020.   If the title "A Year We Won't Forget" ended in a blank, what year would we have filled in?

1963 (although I was an infant!) everyone associates that year with the JKF assassination.  Those that were alive during that time can easily recall where they were and what they were doing when those shots rang out in Dealey Plaza, Dallas, Texas.  A year we wont forget.
1969  Apollo 11 mission on July 20th was indeed "a small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.  A year we won't forget.
The 1970's  While I was still very young, I remember the 70's as my television shows being preempted due to news events around the war in Vietnam and Watergate.. A decade I wont forget
1981  I was in the high school library when i learned that President Reagan had been shot. A year we won't forget
1995  I will never forget the slow speed chase involving a white Ford Bronco.  A year we won't forget.

2001  The events on September 11, 2001 changed our lives forever.  It changed the world forever.  Terrorism became very real for everyone.  Air travel changed.  A year we wont forget

2020  We all learned about a virus called COVID-19.  Major cities shut down.  Over 350,000 Americans died of COVID-19 in 2020 alone and the number is still rising.  Masks became a way of life and we all improved our hand washing skills.  A year we won't forget

Of all the dates above, the first five entries are important dates and are dates we remember.  They made a true impact but the last two....... those are years we would really like to forget.
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