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Ronna Huckaby, M.Ed, LPC-S
Licensed Counselor, Executive Coach

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Rain

4/21/2026

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As I drove to work in the rain this morning, I realized something.  I am incredibly fickle when it comes to rain. Not just me-all of us.  We have a deeply complicated relationship with water falling from the sky. 

"I Wish It Would Rain" is the title to an old song by The Temptations.  Where a man longs for rain to hide his tears-- that doesn't apply to me.  I'm more concerned about watering the sod I have recently planted. Rain today?  Free lawn care.   I'm not going to have to worry about getting out the hose and soaking the tender grass today.

As children, many of us loved to play in the rain.  We ran outside, splashed in puddles, ruined perfectly good shoes and had not a care in the world.  Pure joy.  

The other side of the coin is "Rain, Rain, Go Away.  Come again another day"--We have all chanted that phrase at least once in our lifetime.  Rain can truly be an inconvenience.  Our hair, delayed commutes, the devastation of our freshly washed car--all can be victims of a rainy day. 

Yet, give us a couple of days of 100 degree heat and we are back to "We really need the rain."  . The green grass, the fresh air, colorful flowers start blooming and sometimes we even are lucky enough to get a rainbow.  We smile and quickly forget (and pretend) we weren't complaining at all.

So-- wish it would rain?  Rain, rain, go away?
Honestly, rain called. 
​It wants me to make up my mind. 
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Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda

3/17/2026

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Regrets.  That is a powerful word. Something that we all do not want but something that we all reluctantly must admit we have.  Now what?

I read a book last year entitled The Midnight Library.  This book discussed about a place between life and death where you visit a huge mystical library, full of books that each explore infinite versions of your life.  Maybe you wanted to be a doctor, maybe you wanted to be a movie star, maybe you wanted to be a mother…the library gives you the opportunity to see that possible life and the outcome—if that would have been the path you would have chosen.

When I was reading this book, I spent many waken hours thinking about what would be on the shelves if I visited The Midnight Library.  The main character in the book searches through many books searching for a life where she is the most content.  And regardless of her search, every life showed faded glories.  Some lives, you might lose people you love, fame and fortune without giving you the glory you thought it would.
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We can spend our days caught up in “what if” and “if only,” but I’m fairly certain many of us would eventually discover that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. While it’s probably impossible to live without a few regrets, after some honest reflection, I came to a simple but powerful realization: I like my life just as it is.  THAT, my friend is what is powerful. 
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Karaoke

2/19/2026

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Have you ever gotten up participated in Karaoke?

I can carry a tune. I can sing harmony.   I have actually been a member of a band and several singing groups.  I started singing in church when I was around 14.  Did some talent shows and even sang at a wedding once.

I am not afraid of a microphone.  I am not afraid of a stage.  I am not afraid of people.
But I will NOT do Karaoke.
I did it once.
Once.

My BFF and I were in Mexico and I decided I was going to get up and entertain  guests that gathered in this open-aired concrete theatre.  I have need to disclose that there may or may not have been some alcohol involved prior to this decision.  For my own dignity and defence, I will say YES--that is the only explanation for what followed

Song:  I chose "Rose Garden" by Lynn Anderson.  And truly, I beg your pardon because it was not rosy at all. 

Yes, there is a video. And that, dear reader, is the source of my lifelong humility.  My singing? Perfectly adequate. Pleasant, even.  On key and very expressive. I was selling it.

But for reasons known only to my overly confident past self and probably Jose' Cuervo, I decided the performance required choreography. During an instrumental break, I boldly announced "This is the dance break"--I did some moves that I saw once on The Three Stooges.  And because I apparently thought I was on tour, I shouted "let me hear you, Oklahoma!"  We had met two people from Oklahoma. TWO.  They did not, in fact, respond.  (come to think of it, we may have never seen them again during our stay)

When my friends hear this story, they ask if I still have the video.  Yes, it is on my phone but only three people have ever seen it and that is three people too many.  What I will show them instead, is a video of me and my BFF WATCHING the video.  That video is just as entertaining and will make you laugh, as you watch us laughing hysterically, gasping for breath,

Is there an amount of money that would prompt me to post the original video for all the world to, see?  Well, yes, probably.  But if would need to cover relocation expenses, a name change and probably years of counseling.

I will not sing Karaoke again.  I've already begged my pardon once.  I may not promise you a rose garden, but I absolutely promise you, there will never be another dance break. 




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Current Political Climate

2/19/2026

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My mama taught me, if you cannot say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

The .End.
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Beau

7/24/2025

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Beau is our dog.  He is three-fourth Australian Shepherd and one-fourth Border Collie and 100% a Mess.  

We had the best dog, Sadie. And after she was gone, I said no more dogs.  I have no idea what I was thinking when I thought we needed Beau.  I think all the dog commercials and Instagram videos of these sweet, calm dogs who were clearly "man's best friend" got to me.  

So, when I saw a friend had puppies for sale--I have never paid for a pet, other than small adoption fee-I knew I needed a dog.  When I saw the picture of this little, black and white fur ball with a pretty orange bow around his neck, I shouted "this is MY dog"....(insert shoulder slump and headshake)

He was an adorable puppy.  Freckles on his nose, puppy breath and some big feet.  I took him to PetSmart to Puppy School.  He didn't do so well.  Not because he is not smart, it was because he is too smart.  You have heard people say that smart children can get bored if not challenged, well, that must have been the case.  He "graduated" but it was not fun.  

So, then I decided he needed boarding school (training) and he went for THREE weeks.  The training was supposed to be two but the trainer said he was going to need three.  Beau did not get along with the teacher.  And while, he did learn how to walk on a leash, sit, stay (for a moment) shake, place, down, come (if he is interested), it is clear that Beau lives life on his terms.

The trainer said he will get better with age.  Beau is now 6 and he is better.  He is excellent and sitting and down (even though we sometimes get some attitude with it).  He loves his crate and will go in there every night and sleep without any trouble. BUT he cannot be unsupervised in the house.  Here is why:
  • He ate an entire loaf of banana bread off the counter
  • He ate an entire bowl of lifesavers, wrappers and all (which he threw up later in his crate) off the table
  • He ate a nice juicy ribeye off the counter
  • He ate a sandwich off the counter.

So ANYONE want a dog?  He has cute freckles, LOVES to swim and will sit and shake and even give you a high-five.  But you will need to have some really high counters and even then, I'm not sure your sandwich will be safe. 

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Coupons

2/1/2024

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What are your thoughts on coupons?  

In the past, I would grab the Sunday newspaper and pull out the coupons and start clipping away.  I tried several approaches to organize said coupons: envelops, accordion file folder, paperclips.  Never did find "the one" that was the best.

Coupons are out there and during my birthday month, I get several in the mail.  $10 off, $5 off----and I usually take the bait.  It is free money.  The caveat is you usually have only a few weeks to cash in on these.  AND, in a world where I'm trying to downsize and de-clutter.....what do I actually need?  Where are the coupons from Target or Albertson's where you could use the coupon for things you need?  

Today is 2/1/24.  My birthday month is January.  So as of midnight, last night, my coupons have expired.  

​Well, there is always next year.
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Intermittent Fasting

1/30/2024

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At a doctor's visit, the doctor discussed the benefits of intermittent fasting.  Of course, my only question (which I did NOT ask) was will you lose weight?  A woman at my gym did this type of fast and lost 30 pounds.  Granted, I don't have 30 pounds to lose, just maybe eight.  So why not give it a try.

The goal is to fast for 16 hours.  This allows you to eat for 8 hours and I have learned the key is determining the timeframe that works best.  I work out at the gym at 5:30am and I LOVE breakfast, but I cannot eat breakfast at 7am because then I would have to be done with my dinner at 3pm... now I admit, I do love to eat early (6pm) in relationship to most but 3pm?  That would mean I would have to have my happy hour at 1pm.  I think my boss might raise an eyebrow or two if I was shaking martinis at my desk.

So the best plan is to wrap up my last meal by 7pm.  Which means I can start eating each morning at 11am.  So, from 5:30am to 11am, I watch the clock. Tick, Tock, TIck, Tock.  Stomach growl, Tick Tock.  I do have to admit it is really not as hard as I thought but I do miss breakfast.  It makes you think about what you will be eating when you are allowed.  The doctor did mention that during those eight hours of feasting, you must eat a healthy, well-balanced meal.  Doctors take the fun out of everything!!!

It is 8:30am and I'm drinking my coffee and have my snack ready when the little hand hits the eleven and the big hand is on the twelve.  So if you want to meet for a breakfast meeting, I am happy to do that but everyone needs to know that I will be having my happy hour at noon and going to bed at 5.  Happy Fasting.
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Start the year off with kindness.

1/2/2024

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I have long been in the practice of saying hello and sharing a smile to strangers.  I will also give out a compliment or two:  That is a pretty dress"  "You are pretty"    It may weird out some folks, but 99.9% of the time, the recipients seem genuinely grateful.

Today, I was on the receiving end of a compliment.  Not only once but twice within the same hour, two different people.  The only reason I am sharing this is I'm living on the high from their kindness:  You look so nice.   You are so pretty. 

In a new year, we (me) seem to be analyzing everything about ourselves we need to change.  We set resolutions often centered around how to improve.  Goals to be thinner that we disguise in a resolution centered around "just being healthy."  Today, I'm going to go a different direction.  Of course, that doesn't mean I won't be reading about diets or how to lose inches FAST , it means I am going to take the focus OFF of me.  I want to be kind.  

My goal for 2024 is to
  • write personal letters to those I love,
  • give more compliments and
  • always share a smile. 
You never know how long someone could ride that high. 


​Happy 2024!
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Unwanted Emails

8/29/2023

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This morning I noticed a trend within my in-box. The email titles were very disturbing.
  • Compression Knee Sleeves
  • Solutions for Memory Loss
  • AARP
  • Hair Loss
  • Avoid Dementia
  • Bone on Bone
  • Walk in Bathtubs
  • Diet Solutions

I'm not sure which one is the most offensive. 

My knees are just fine (they may click a little but they are just fine) and I think that also addresses the Bone on Bone.

AARP-I have been a member since 2013 (age 50)

Hair loss:  you are wasting your time.  My hair is fine, yes fine in texture but FINE none the less.

Diet solutions:  HOW RUDE! While I am pretty much on a diet 50 weeks out of the year, I do not need some random email telling me how I should do it.  I like my diets to include wine, Ruffles and peanut butter.  I have yet to get THAT diet solution.  So back off.

Avoid Dementia:  while I am always afraid of this happening, I try and do puzzles and games on my iPad that will keep this disease at bay.  And while I often have the "what did I come in here for?" thoughts, I do have a pretty good memory.  Of course, I remember things that do not really matter.

Here are some facts that YOU may not know or remember-but I do:  Florence Bush was the casts' hairdresser on Leave It to Beaver.  Rob and Laura Petrie lived at 148 Bonnie Meadow Road.  Miss Landers was Beaver Cleaver's teach and Mrs. Rayborn was the principal.  I even remember the poem I recited at my kindergarten graduation!  My memory is fine.

Walk in Bathtub:  while this sounds very convenient, they are expensive.  Any ad that says $500 off means the price is at least 10 figures. Plus, everyone in the ads are OLD and have gray hair.  My hair is not gray, as far as you know. 

OK.  I have said my peace.  I do not want some strange company sending me these disturbing emails reminding me of growing old.   Now I need to run to the drug store to get some Icy Hot and Advil.  If I could just find my keys..........

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Real Estate

8/16/2023

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I love looking at real estate online.  I also like watching the shows centered around real estate:  Million Dollar Listing, Lottery Dream Home, etc.  I also like the home remodeling:  Flip or Flop, Love it or List it.... basically, pretty much anything on HGTV.

When I am looking at real estate through apps like Zillow or Realtor, I tend to look at homes in Malibu, Newport Beach, Hollywood Hills, Beverly Hills---and of course, these homes all come with a 7-figure price tag-some are 8 and even 9 figure price points!  WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE?   Oh, I'm sure if I looked, I could find a home that was under a million but what's the fun in that??   So, I look at homes that overlook the ocean or have an ocean view--because if I'm going to pay millions of dollars, I need a view. 

While I know that these homes are often staged to look like they belong on the cover of Architectural Digest, I often wonder what it would look like if someone actually LIVED in these houses.  Where do they put their clutter?  Do people REALLY have garages that are three white walls with no ladder, no shovel, no boxes of crap lying around?  

Needless to say, while I can dream about a big Hollywood Hills abode, that will never be my reality.  EVEN if I won the lottery, I would remain here in Texas.  That will not stop my dreaming and I will work to keep my envy in check.  But I do believe a view of the deep blue sea and an empty garage is little bit like heaven.  
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Turning 60

3/22/2023

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I clearly remember my 30th birthday party.  I loved being 30.  It was a great decade for me. I turned 30 with two degrees under my belt, lots of great friends, exciting fun times and late nights. 

I clearly remember turning 50.  My sweet friends orchestrated a surprise party for me (at my own house!) with the theme of "I love Ronna" --I was so overwhelmed by their acts of kindness.  It was truly a standout moment for me.  

Well, this year I turned 60.  SIXTY.  6.0.  When I turned 55, I was so glad to qualify for the discount at the Movie Tavern.  But while 60 is a new decade, this year does not bring with it any new perks.  You have to be 62 for most senior discounts and 65 to qualify for Medicare so I guess being 60 is like being a Sophomore in High School:  you are not the new kid on the block (Freshman) and you can't drive or have your own prom (Junior.) 60 is the "middle child."

So, I guess I will just sit and bide my time until 62.  I still have great friends and fun times but no longer any late nights.  Conclusion:  60 is just being old without any perks.


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Journaling vs Blog

3/7/2022

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     I was recently reading a book where the character talked about having a journal.  She said that having a journal was better than a diary because having a diary meant you had to do daily entries. And that was too much.
    A diary is usually where you write down your day to day activities-what you did, what you didn't do.
  Journaling is more about recording your thoughts and feelings.  Journaling is less about "events" or your to dos.
    So....what is a blog?  I have operated a blog for several years.  It is not a diary-because I do not record something every day.  I would like to write every day but I'm always trying to think of topics.  I spend more time thinking about topics than writing about topics.  And, I do this blog for fun.  
    I read that journaling is for stress relief.  But then they said write every day....well, wouldn't that be stressful in itself?  and it would be very close to being a diary?  knowing you have to record your thoughts and feelings in a pretty little notebook EVERY day?  that is too much for me.   I will stick to this blog.  
     I guess you could say I do jot down my thoughts and feelings on certain subjects.  But not sure I can say that it is a stress-free task.  Of course, the actually writing is stress-free but the weeks, sometimes months, between entries are filled with stressing over what to write about next.
     So welcome to my non-diary, non-journal blog.  Now, I've got to run...I have got to think of a topic for next time.

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Standout Moments

1/6/2022

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As with every new year, I often think back on the year we are leaving behind.  Every year we should be able to pick out moments that have made us smile, made us grow or changed a direction in our life.

Of course, there are so many standout moments that affect all of us in one way or another:  the events at the Capitol on Jan 6,  a new President took office, hopefully most of us got vaccinated (and boosted!) and of course we lost the legend Betty White.

Personally when I look at my 2021 for the moments that made me smile, made me grow or changed a direction, a few things stand out.

1.  Hit the one year anniversary of "working from home" with no return to office in site.
2.  Feb freeze with no electricity for 72 hours and house at 42 degrees.

3.  Birth of my second granddaughter--Madilyn Kae.
4.  being able to dust off my suitcase and make a few trips:  New York, San Diego, LA, Vegas (2x) and the beach (Crystal Beach, Tx)

Probably one of the greatest moments was a huge surprise--planned and executed by two dear friends.  I went to Las Vegas with my wonderful sister in law.  We arrived, ate, walked around and then she had me meet her in the center of the casino.  We where there talking when all of a sudden, someone pinched me on the hiney!  I spun around thinking that someone was about to be punched when WHOA.....there stood my friend Lisa and Mindy.  WHAT???  I had just seen her a week earlier and had no idea they were coming to LV.  I screamed, I jumped up and down and was in complete awe of what was happening.  How? What? Why?

My husband and I are going on a trip with them in January and they said because I was doing that, they wanted to surprise me and come to Vegas.  WOW....that is such a sweet friendship we share.   Those two gals fill my cup.  I am so grateful and honored to call them my friends.

While these were moments in 2021, they will be in my "forever" list of standout moments. 

I pray that you have some wonderful standout moments of 2021 and that on 12/31/22 we all can just add to that list.   Happy New Year.


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Shopping for the man who has everything....

12/16/2021

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I was reviewing some of my past posts....this is one from 2015.  I'm reposting it because the story has not changed.  What's a girl to do?
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It appears that the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is shrinking.  I remember when I was under 18, it seemed like forever for Christmas to get here after the day of turkey.  And in the past few years, it seems I haven't even emptied the dishwasher from the thanksgiving meal and it is time to put up a tree (geez, that is a post all its own) shop for all those people on your list--that list where 99% of them fall into the category "what in the hell do I get _______?" (sadly, I can fill this blank in with a dozen names) 


Oh, don't get me wrong, I have finished my shopping.  But it has NOT been easy.  I try and buy all year long--see something, over hear a "want"--get it......but there is one that stumps me every year. 

My husband is getting some real crap....not intentionally but he has to be the hardest man on the planet to find something for to put under the tree. 

So what are the options for this man?  what does he like?  what does he do?  What are his hobbies?  Let's explore........

1.  What does he like?  He likes books.  We own a book publishing company and online store (www.cowboybookworm.com.)  So HOW CAN I BUY HIM A BOOK???  

2.  What does he do or wear?  He is a cowboy.  He wears boots and jeans and western shirts.  He offices at home and can wear t-shirts and sweats if he wants.  So what to get a cowboy?
Jeans?  he buys 2-3 pair before the National Finals Rodeo in Las Vegas first week of December.  nope, not an option.
Boots?  he has the funkiest feet and there is NO way I will buy him boots.
Western shirts?:  since he offices at home, he rarely puts on a long sleeve shirt so he has plenty.
Belt?  again...he is picky and wants no bling.  don't risk it.
Hat?  Are you kidding me?

3.  Cologne? He does wear cologne but evidently I am completely unaware of my buying habits of this product.  He got some for Valentine's Day, his birthday and our anniversary.  Worst part is I bought the same cologne EVERY TIME.  What the heck? I am banned from cologne purchases until 2020. 

4.  What are his hobbies?  His hobby is books.  See number 1.

So there you have it...least YOU have it,  because Mr. Huckaby sure doesn't.  Sorry honey. xxxo
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My Grandchildren

9/7/2021

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I currently have two precious granddaughters.  Presley who is 3 (going on 13) and Madi who is 5 months.

These girls are fascinating!  I became a “bonus mom” when I married my husband and up until then my “children” had always had four legs and went “Meow” or “Bow Wow.”   I never experience raising a baby or really being around young children. So being able to share in the birth and growth of these two little ones...wow.... believe me when I tell you that I have been in awe of these two little girls since the day of their birth.

Watching them discover the world, getting teeth, learning to roll over, crawl, walk….all just amazing.  And while this may not be amazing to everyone….it is to me. 

When I found out I was going to be a ‘Nonna”, folks often told me “being a grandparent is the best thing in the world”—these folks were not wrong.  My heart explodes when Presley runs to me, arms outstretched or ask for me to hold her.  When she sings to her baby sister “Love me Tender”, get me a Kleenex! 

Presley's vocabulary is impressive.  She is so smart and I'm sure her sister will be as well.  These two make you smile and laugh at every turn.

I often think about their future, all grown up and on their own.  I know that I will not be around for all their days  but it is a great motivation to stay healthy so I can be a part of as many days as possible:  school, sports, graduations, love. 

If you are a grandparent, I am certain you share my thoughts and if you are soon to be one—get ready because it IS the best thing in the world!!

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Tasting Memories-Repost from 2015

7/28/2021

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Today, I had a "tasting memory."  It reminded me of this post for 2015.  I thought I would repost. My experience is still the same today.

​You hear a lot about how certain songs or even smells can bring back certain memories.  With the starting of school I am reminded of a memory that floods my mind based upon a certain taste......

In 1969, I was going to start first grade at the Southward Elementary School in Bowie, Texas.  I was beyond excited.  I had my Big Chief Tablet, big fat pencil, a box of Crayons that were flat on one side (does ANYONE remember those?) rounded scissors and of course my Family Affair lunch box.

Several years ago, my husband bought me a Family Affair lunch box (complete with thermos)  for Christmas.  It was an "awwww" moment and scored many bonus points for him. 

Back to 1969.  The week before school started I wanted to "practice" taking my lunch to school.  So every day that week, I would take my packed Family Affair lunch box and go outside and sit on the curb at the end of the sidewalk.   The treasures packed in this tin box might have varied from a ham sandwich to fried chicken.  I'm not sure what all was in that lunch but one thing I am certain that was in my lunch was a baggie full of green grapes. 
Those grapes are my tasting memories.  It doesn't apply to all  grapes but every once in a while, I'll pick up a grape, pop it in my mouth and then be flooded with memories. I am taken back to 1969, sitting on the curb on Wilbarger Street.  Makes me smile every time.

I hope you have a sweet memory of your childhood.  They taste so good
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The Dreaded Bathroom Scale

7/17/2021

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This past week I was hanging out with my best friend from kindergarten.  Time with her is always the best time.

We starting talking about diets.  We talked about different diets and wishing that there were diets out there where you didn’t feel like you were starving.  I tried to remind us that for 58 years old, we are not too shabby.  (she recently lost 20 pounds and I have NOT idea where that weight came from because she has always been thin to me) While I am really starting to see that “almost” 60 year old spread, I basically have been the same size for a decade.

We starting talking about the dreaded scale. 
“You know they say you should not weigh yourself every day, but I do” she proclaimed. 
“ME TOO” I exclaimed.
“I actually weigh twice a day” she admitted.
“ME TOO” I exclaimed.
 
We laughed and laughed.  We confessed that sometimes our “bedtime” weight would drive the decisions for the next day.  And if we were down in numbers at bedtime, we were going to be so excited to weigh in the morning—believing that it would be even lower.  Weigh-ins need to be before 8am and after 8pm—never in between.  There are rules in the relationship with the bathroom scale.
 
I told her a story about my gym where they really discouraged folks from being tied to the scale, tied to the number and that healthy/strong is the new skinny.  One coach even took her bathroom scale out and smashed it with a sledge hammer which then became sort of trendy for other gym members.  Not me.  I do admit that I can go through spurts where I weight myself 2x daily and then may skip a few days.  That feels like Russian roulette—because without me closing monitoring you never know what you will get when you decide to get back on..
 
While I usually do weigh myself two times a day, I just watch the scale creep up, ounce by ounce, pound by pound.   And before you comment, I know that I am not what most would consider “fat” but it was really funny that me and my friend of 53 years basically follow the same routine. 

I wonder if I didn’t spend all this time weighing myself, what I could do with all that free time.  I could exercise more (insert a laughing, "yeah right" here)……or maybe what would be better use of my time ….bake a cake or some delicious cookies.--especially since the number was down a bit this morning1   
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Garage Sale Delimma

7/12/2021

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​Seems like every spring (or fall) I decide I  need to have a garage sale.  I do a slight purge of my closet-pulling out a few things that I have had for ages and am finally willing to part with—like those that I purchased from Paul Harris (anyone remember THAT store? Circa 1992)  I have lots of solid color tops and blouses and have convinced myself that they do not go out of style.  Doesn’t everyone need five black -shirts?  And before you judge here some are V-necks and some have rounded necks, so yes, I need all five. 

If you have ever had a garage sale, you know that clothes are not your best sellers—unless they are marked under 25 cents or size 2T.  But it always seems like clothes are what I have the most of…and they are the hardest to price—do you put a price tag on every single piece or put like items in a box with one price fits all?  See all the stress that comes with hosting a sale.

Early last year (2020) I helped Cindy clean out her kitchen so I had lots of small appliances and great items that would be hot commodities.  I could draw the folks up the driveway with view of goodies and then do a hard sell on some of the hard to sell items.  “You can have 5 cassette tapes a nickle”  BUT then we were hit with the pandemic and garage sales were not very desirable—for both the seller and the buyer.  So after about 4 months of “storing” all of these priceless gems, I decided that it was not worth it and that maybe my garage sale days were over.  So I loaded up every bag of clothes and all the boxes of kitchen gadgets and other goodies and off to Goodwill I went.  What a relief to get rid of a little bit of clutter.

Fast forward to present day.  I have several bags of clothes and a few furniture items and other things that would be a sure sell.  SO……..do I set up tables and spend 3-4 days pricing and organizing to have a garage sale on a Friday morning, maybe carrying over to Saturday morning and then spend Saturday afternoon boxing up all the “left overs” in 100 degree Texas heat?  Furthermore, I RARELY make over $200, heck I would be thrilled if it would make $200…… so is it worth it?  If I calculate up all the hours of prep, event management and clean up, and use my “profit” from my last sale as reference, it comes to about $4 an hour.  Wait…what?
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Goodwill, here I come.   Unless you tell me that you would love a red Paul Harris cardigan?

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Swimsuit Shopping

6/30/2021

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I don't know about you, but I do not know any woman who enjoys shopping for a swimsuit.  Maybe if you are a supermodel it might be a pleasant experience, but I do not know any supermodels.

This is a grueling task-for several reasons.
1.  Dressing rooms have mirrors
2. Searching for the separate tops and bottoms-trying to find a match.

Let's discuss the matching of tops and bottoms.  It is hard to find a true "one-piece" suit these days.  Unless you are an Olympic swimmer and the USA supplies you with one, not sure where you can find one (I'm sure they are out there but again--this task is not one I enjoy so I am NOT going to extend the search for something I do not want to buy anyway.)

There are rows of tops--from a true bikini top to more of a tankini top. I find one that you can live with and then work to find the elusive matching bottom.  I might find the same material but the style is too revealing and at the age of 58, not sure a string bottom is the look I am going for.   So I switch the top for a solid and work to find a bottom...this MIGHT be easier but best bet:  find a black bottom...basic black goes with anything right? (FYI:  I have 4-6 black swimsuit bottoms)

Ok.  I find a couple of pieces that I am willing to try on all the while trying to boost my self esteem before I actually try it on with some positive self-talk.  "No one is even going to see you"  "You have a nice tan"  "You are not too bad for your age"  whatever works.

The dressing room:  You slip it on (never removing the awkward panty liner) and try not and think about how many times this has been tried on this year.  It "feels" ok--not too tight, not too loose.  I never look in the mirror until I have it on and then I do a quick turn....TADA!  uh....no.  I take it off as fast as possible and try the next one.  This time instead of a quick turn, I do the side glance....a sneak peak...and if at that point I am not crying, I will take a full look.   I repeat all of the self-esteem boosters and decide that I just need to get it, check out and go home.  

No one is paying any attention to me at the beach.  I am alone at the pool in my backyard.  Furthermore,  I now realize I just need a big hat and sunglasses and maybe no one will ever recognize me.  So get I my new suit, my BIG hat and BIGGER sunglasses and give myself a new "pool time" identity. See you at the pool and FYI: call me Melissa.  

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Clutter vs Passion

6/22/2021

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I hate clutter.
The End.

Just kidding.  Last year I posted an entry to this blog about "The Silent Hike."  While reading it is not a prerequisite to reading this entry, reading it will give you context of how this topic was born.

The phrase I wrote in my journal was "Clutter extinguishes passion."  When I said that to myself, I was actually proud.  At the time it really encompassed what I was feeling.  I was overwhelmed at work, pulled in many different directions, dealing with some drama (I hate drama almost as much as I hate clutter) and I just didn't feel the joy and passion that I usually felt for my job.  All the "noise" around me had put out my flame.  I didn't give a $#@!.

I was jealous of all those around me that were so passionate about their cause and life's work.  I wanted my passion back.  Clutter had ripped it from my life.

While I am not a perfectionist, I do like things neat and tidy.  When my desk is a mess, or my house, I have to get it picked up so I can rest easy and work.  I like all areas of my life clutter free (as is possible).  Some people do not even seem to SEE clutter around them--be it actually clutter or drama.  I do not know if I would want to be one of those people. Do they feel like their passion is extinguished?    (I am married to one who doesn't appear to see clutter and he can work amongst the chaos-bless him)  He can be himself, and I have learned to just shut the door to his office.  Why could I not just "shut the door" at work? 

I say all of this to point out that clutter is here to stay.   There are days when things are overwhelming and seem insurmountable.  You just don't care.  But you DO care.  So how do we move past it and get our passion ignited again?  I wish I had the easy 1,2,3 answer.  But here is what I have learned.

1.  See the clutter--what can you live with? for things you cannot live with, see if you can go around it.
2.  Embrace the clutter--what can you learn from it?  There are many life lessons to be found.
3.  Remember your passion--"this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine"
4.  Protect your passion. --when the song says "hide it under a bushel-NO" maybe sometimes you have to at least shield it from the wind.

Just thinking out loud.

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A Year We Won't Forget

6/9/2021

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In writing the title of this post, I started thinking about how I would have identified "such a year" prior to 2020.   If the title "A Year We Won't Forget" ended in a blank, what year would we have filled in?

1963 (although I was an infant!) everyone associates that year with the JKF assassination.  Those that were alive during that time can easily recall where they were and what they were doing when those shots rang out in Dealey Plaza, Dallas, Texas.  A year we wont forget.
1969  Apollo 11 mission on July 20th was indeed "a small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.  A year we won't forget.
The 1970's  While I was still very young, I remember the 70's as my television shows being preempted due to news events around the war in Vietnam and Watergate.. A decade I wont forget
1981  I was in the high school library when i learned that President Reagan had been shot. A year we won't forget
1995  I will never forget the slow speed chase involving a white Ford Bronco.  A year we won't forget.

2001  The events on September 11, 2001 changed our lives forever.  It changed the world forever.  Terrorism became very real for everyone.  Air travel changed.  A year we wont forget

2020  We all learned about a virus called COVID-19.  Major cities shut down.  Over 350,000 Americans died of COVID-19 in 2020 alone and the number is still rising.  Masks became a way of life and we all improved our hand washing skills.  A year we won't forget

Of all the dates above, the first five entries are important dates and are dates we remember.  They made a true impact but the last two....... those are years we would really like to forget.
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Yahtzee

7/14/2020

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, I have a confession to make.  Until last month, I have never played Yahtzee.  No, I do not live under a  rock.  And while I thought I had the perfect childhood, clearly I was deprived of the game of 5 dice and the joy of yelling "YAHTZEE!"   (for shame mom and dad for shame)

My childhood was full of games, Candyland, Trouble, Scrabble, Monopoly- the ones that most Americans have played at least once in their life.  As a child, I even had a few rare games-Mystery Date and I even had a Plant of the Apes board game.  So my parents were not trying to keep fun out of my life--but no Yahtzee.  Not sure why.  (insert sad face here)

Regardless of the limitations of my childhood, I have discovered the joy of throwing the 5 dice, making decisions based on the rolls, hoping for the the numbers I need and of course the remarkable Yahtzee!.  And my life will never be the same.  Oh, the thrill of yelling Yahtzee, passing out high-fives along the way when you get the coveted 5 of a kind.  

I bought some dice and the scorepads (I did NOT get the boxed game--which I was told by my husband is not a true Yahtzee experience if you don't have the little cup to roll the dice -- so we now use a plastic drink glass as our tumbler..  Again, how was I to know such things, I have coaxed my family into playing a few games after dinner several nights--I think they say yes, because I often play by myself and they think that is so sad and pitiful.  Milton Bradley had it wrong--it is not for 2+ players.. It is fun as a 1+ solitary game. I have fun playing alone--trying to beat my previous score and learning to strategize. 

I'm sure I could make all kinds of references to how a game of Yahtzee is like the game of life.  That we act on a chance, only to realize a few rolls later that we should have made a difference decision.  That even the game gives you a "chance"-which is sort of like a throw away.  You learn that not everything is within your control. 

​But I don't have time for that.  I got to get back to the game.  I'm rolling for an inside straight.

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The Silent Hike

9/16/2019

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Recently I attended a retreat in Stowe, Vermont.  The retreat was hosted by a large national foundation who supports non-profits when have an entrepreneurial spirit.  There were approximately ninety different organizations represented which was about 150 individuals.  It was five days of networking, team building and self-discovery as a leader.
One of the activities as a silent hike.  We were in Vermont—at the Trapp lodge where there are more than just trails….there are hills (you know-those that are alive with music?)… this Texan calls these "hills" mountains. 

I consider myself fit.  I work out about four times a week at a boot camp, which is no joke.  It is 35 minutes of hard work and I love it.  Therefore,  when they announced there would be three levels for the hike:  fast paced, medium paced and slow paced.- I wanted to pick medium pace but my competitive spirit would not allow such a thing to happen.  I knew if I did not go on the fast pace hike I would be kicking myself the rest of the retreat. 
The plan was to take a small notebook and hit the trail, no one was to speak. Goal:  introspection.  And off we went.

Well….my family-especially my husband-are always telling me to slow down.  I walk too fast and they cannot keep up.  But when labeled  “fast paced” they were NOT kidding.  There were about 30 of us in a semi-straight line, picking them up and putting them down.  The majority of the hikers were male-not that makes any difference but their stride was longer than mine was and therefore even faster.  I was determined to NOT let anyone pass me because that would mean failure.  Truly, I was not being as introspection as so desired. 

I was silent the whole time…I really did not have a choice because I was breathing so hard I doubt I could have spoken if spoken to.  I was too busy trying to breath.  And while the hike was silent, the sound of my heavy breathing filled the air.  Was that just me?  Could others hear me?  I had to go faster…and do not forget this trail was UP a mountain and very rocky.  Obstacles, narrow path, branches and incline, sharp turn backs. 

When at the top we stopped and pulled out our journal for a time of reflection.  We were to jot down our thoughts from our hike thus far and then on the way back down, we were to reflect on one of these thoughts.  Here are my notes straight out of my journal:
  • ·       When the path narrows, slow down
  • ·       Look at those in front of you for inspiration.
  • ·       Sometimes when you hit an obstacle, just go around it.
  • ·       Do not worry if you are slowing people down-let them go around-give them the          opportunity to succeed.
  • ·       Life is not a competition—just be me.
  • ·       Passion can be extinguished by clutter.
  • ·       Shade from a hundred little trees is mighty.
  • ·       Amongst all the dead leaves and limbs, new baby trees emerge.
  • ·        Remember the stick that was standing by the rock.
I think I could write a whole post on several of these thoughts.  And I will.  But for now I will leave you to also ponder/reflect.  Ponder my thoughts and think of what you would want to focus on if you were on a silent hike.  
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I will not forget this learning experience for some time.  While I did have some great aha’s, I think what stands out first is on that day in August in Vermont, the hills were alive with my heavy breathing. 
 

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Mom

6/8/2018

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My sweet mother died in October 2006.  Never a day goes by that I don’t think of her. 

She had a special love for butterflies.  She said that they had an important meaning in her life and this had brought her much comfort during several difficult times in her life.
I am adopted. She recalls the day she and my dad made the 70-mile journey to pick me up and bring me home.  She was very nervous.  It was a snowy day in January and she recalled driving down the highway, wringing her hands with anticipation of her new baby.  Out of nowhere, a large beautiful monarch butterfly landed on the hood of the car and “rode with them” for several miles.  She said she felt like this as a sign from God and it brought her much comfort. “Everything will be ok.”

Fast forward two years:  I was 2 years old and having major surgery.  My mother was so afraid.  She said she was standing; looking out my hospital room window and a large beautiful butterfly came and landed on the windowpane.  She felt a sigh of relief because she again received a sign that everything would turn out just fine.  Which it did.   

There are many other stories in our lives of when a butterfly brought us comfort and remembrance.  Therefore, it is not a surprise that whenever I see a butterfly I think of my mother….it is as if she is there with me in that moment …showing me that regardless of what is going on around me….things will be ok.

Many people have a “symbol” much like a butterfly that gives them that moment that their long lost loved one is with them …be it a rainbow, a cardinal or even a beautiful rose….it is a connection to someone special.

Saw a butterfly the other day and I smiled. “Hi, Mom.”

I hope you have a special “sign” that brings you the warm comfort that can fill the void  that has been left in your heart-if only for an instant. 
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Blog Topics: what's a girl gonna do?

6/5/2017

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I have had this blog for TWO years.  One year and 10 months to be exact--that actually sounds better to me.  And during those 22 months, I have posted a blog 8 months out of the 22 for a total of 12 posts.  That is not a very good percentage for success.  So let's get to the bottom of why posting a new entry is so difficult and review the past blogs.  (other than the previous entry of August 2016 on blogging)

Topics of previous posts:
1.  Blogging (introduction to "Thinking Out Loud")  2015
2.  Raymond--about one of my cats
3.  Tasting Memories--one of my favorite posts about my childhood.
4.  Live Like You Were Dying (9/15)  Posted after a friend's loss of a loved one
5.  Lifelong Friends (10/15)  Girlfriends from elementary school and still great friends today.
6.  Shopping for the Hard to Shop for (AKA: my husband)  12/15  title says it all.
7. Happy New year (1/2016)  I'm sure this was to set off 2016 with lots of great posts.
8.  #53 (my birthday)
9.  The Cat Circus (3/16)  If you have never been to a cat circus, this is a must read.
10.  I am From  (3/16)   reflections on my life
11.  Writing a Blog (8/16)  (bitching)
12.  Driving in Ireland (9/16) (travel bitching)
13.  Blog Topics  (6/2017)

Seems like in August 2016, I was struggling with the same issues.  It still rings true.
The desire to entertain is huge for me.  I think these entries should be entertaining to the readers...yes, I care about both of you.  I remember reading the wonderful writings of Jason Mulgrew.  His blog made me laugh out loud.  I discovered Jason when he was voted one of People's Hottest Bachelors of 2005 (blogger category!)  One read and I was hooked.  I followed his career and purchased both of his books (highly recommend.)  

So trust me, I think of great topics to blog about and know they would be entertaining but by the time I get to a computer and remember to blog, my mind is blank.  (note to self:  write a blog post about forgetfulness)

Even as I write this I also am reminded that I'm pretty certain no one is reading these posts so why does it matter?  It matters because I like to reread these and I want to be entertained.  So here you go Ronna---here is your commitment that I will strive to entertain you in the months to come....but don't expect too much. 







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